Incest is Best
May 16, 2018
Why? Webster dictionary defines incest as sexual intercourse between persons so closely related that
they are forbidden by law to marry; also : the statutory crime of such a relationship. This makes sense yet in some countries it’s epidemic and has been for centuries. Even in the US, I’ve been shocked in interviewing hundreds of females over the last few years that their perception and/or experience is that as many as 80% of adult females have been molested and/or raped by either someone in the extended family or otherwise. Incest is a large part even though hard to qualify.
Incest is very common, usually perpetrated by fathers, brothers, uncles and family ‘friends’. Strangers may lure children with promises of sweets or toys. With child abuse, it is as common for boys to be abused as girls, creating untold miseries for the victim throughout their life.
There is a movement currently on, in a paradigm shift for ‘truth and consequences’ with a few million now being more open and questioning what females have been subject to in unwanted sexual advances far beyond childhood. One is called ‘Metoo’ where females are exercising their freedom to admit being a victim of unwanted sexual abuse. This is mostly adults and sadly, children are too innocent and afraid of speaking out.
If someone has been abused as a child, it is common that they will then become an abuser as an adult, even if they don’t wish to do so. This is because early life experiences have a programming effect in the psyche of the child. Children are like sponges. As happens to them, so they will do to others when they
grow up. This cyclical abuse often moves through generations. ‘Family Constellation’ work is an excellent way to release such trauma. A Family Constellation is a three-dimensional group process that has the
power to shift generations of suffering and unhappiness.
Bert Hellinger, the founder of this work, who studied and treated families for more than 50 years, observed that many of us unconsciously “take on” destructive familial patterns of anxiety, depression, anger, guilt, aloneness, alcoholism and even illness as a way of “belonging” in our families. Bonded by a deep love, a child will often sacrifice his own best interests in a vain attempt to ease the suffering of a parent or other family member.
The only acceptable ‘incest’ in an evolving world is the inner love of you such that you can’t imagine a more unfiltered, unfearful way of loving in the deepest levels with consistency. Love is the most healing force in the world. Nothing goes deeper. Love heals not only the body and mind, but also the soul.