Mythical Love Fear
December 10, 2016
Alethiology means the study of truth. Life’s greatest truth is to be filled with love. Fear of intimacy is selfish! There are, of course, valid reasons why people, and that includes most everyone, have fears of letting go of who they are, and merge with another. Great sex doesn’t mean that ‘something’ important isn’t missing. Further, great sex for some isn’t necessarily great for the other participant. Great sex for one can be just using another as a source of pleasure while being from, unquestionably a prior traumatic life changing experience(s) for the other, and not to mention that most things are relative to ones prior experiences and perceptions.
Going to an ‘education factory’ to become more informed so as to make more money that will hopefully allow anything money can buy. Unfortunately it leaves out ‘how to let go of everything that blocks the ability to experience deep love and compassion with no expectation. Fake intelligence is to gain great intellectual knowledge on certain matters but leaving little or no room for common sense, intuition, emotional perception and the ability to feel the higher qualities of those. Fear of intimacy is to be avoided much as the fear of swimming in the ocean for all but those who’ve mastered the abilities to do so.
I once had a guy who gave ‘fire walks’ on hot coals at my Los Angeles Meditation Center. His name was ‘Bear’. Bear was an elite of the military having been in combat in Asia. Walking on hot coals is all about overcoming your fears and seeing that it’s the busy mind that won’t still itself which is responsible for most fears. Bear had given many fire-walks with an introductory talk and meditation. Ironically, Bear admitted to everyone that as much as was regarded as a ‘brave, fearless’ guy, he was fearful of intimacy, in fact terrified!
The first step to dealing with fear of intimacy is to recognize it, then make the decision to clear whatever it is that promotes that fear be it lack of childhood love, abandonment issues, abuse, and what ever it is that creates the ‘shield’ that makes the resistance and fear of losing yourself, like in the fear of death. Actually, the freedom to express total intimacy and communication is the opposite of losing yourself, but to find it.
Love is ‘free’. No need to pay for it, but you do pay for not being able to open all the doors to love. Love needs ‘resonance’ and harmony like a drum needs to be ‘tuned’ and needing partnering with an object for sounds. Love can slip away from your life where there is no resonance. Knowing what each other is feeling inside and being in harmony with that is to know the joy of bliss and harmony. As a lover would say, ‘give it to me now, and straight from the heart’!
‘I love myself’ . The quietest, simplest, most powerful revolution ever.