Chained to Best (?) Friend
June 13, 2010
Sleeping with the enemy who masquerades as one’s ‘best friend’ is not the coolest way to be an alleged best friend, particularly when married to who wouldn’t be your ‘best friend’ if you were not married to them. Ever think of treating your self as your best friend! It’s strangely ‘fashionable’ to regard your partner as the ’best friend’ while it’s likely one has little time for others to see if there might be a better friend.
Divorces are popular, but they don’t seem to unfold into two people agreeing they are that ‘best friend’ of yesteryear. Also popular is the ‘non divorce’ which is really a ‘prisoner of love long gone’ situation that slowly degrades into some type of ‘commercial -like’ business arrangement for the sake of others, and money concerns. Abuse of love is rampant wherever some semblance of love once was. It’s like a garden that if left unweeded and not nourished, loses it’s ‘garden status’ into just a bunch of overgrown weeds out of control.
Traveling through life on cruise control when there is enough inner conflict to last a lifetime, is a slow suicide. Teaming up with a so called friend who is experiencing the same dilemmas, is a case where two heads are worse than one! Life is more fair than one would sometimes assume. Karma of what you put out comes back eventually, and often is very fair especially for those who elect to make good choices that move beyond self imposed limitations. Why live in a boxlike prison littered with old negative thoughts slowly building on each other, preventing a new fresh approach that perpetuates evolving into a greater love of self and all of life?
Being chained to any friendship that’s stuck on negativity is an opportunity to use ‘skillful means’ to distance oneself to be more harmoniously positioned to best appreciate, and give ‘breathing room’ to a friend who has drifted into an ‘enemy-acquaintance-friend’ state. As people age in their unresolved rubbish, they and others like them, only reluctantly have each other as ‘acquaintances’ to be involved with. Looking for a positive, evolving partner becomes an exercise rarely not in futility at this time of ‘great dissonance and distractions in life. Everyone, with few exceptions, becomes like a poorly maintained, somewhat wrecked used car with ‘champagne ego’. That ego’s demands are really fantasies far removed from the reality of stopping and seeking to open the inner letting out of the ‘blocks or garbage’, to be replaced by a new sense of life, and self love one step at a time! Dissolve the ‘chains’ with love and awareness.
June 13, 2010
Divorces are popular, but they don’t seem to unfold into two people agreeing they are that ‘best friend’ of yesteryear. Also popular is the ‘non divorce’ which is really a ‘prisoner of love long gone’ situation that slowly d