Negative Sees Negative

NEGATIVE Sees negative 👎

January 20, 2021

Years ago, I made a vow to turn all situations into the positive, and I mean ALL! The result was an experience(s) which enhanced life and deep love to this time. However as a few short years went by, and even now, the ‘negative’ must be appreciated and not seen because of only seeing the positive. There are times, with what we choose to do, our experiences or interactions are such that the negative is hard to avoid, but it’s an opportunity to see how best to deal with it. Sometimes walking into the ‘fire of the negative’ sharpens how we can better see things and learn from them.

There are infinite degrees of negative and positive in people as well as knowing how to use each situation for the best outcome. Most negative people are also positive in different ways and yet some tend to focus on seeing the negative in response or reaction. They become sometimes like walking through a ‘minefield’. One wrong move, especially with the ‘slip of the lips’ can be forgiven, but sometimes never forgotten. It’s never wise to mix bad words with your bad mood. You will have infinite opportunities to change your moods, but not always the chance to take back your words.

Contrariness is a mindset that some have who seem to see everything different than who or what they are addressing. It’s a self revolving addiction that if you’re the ‘contrary one’ it’s time to ‘own it’, and make it a goal to park it where you forgot where you parked it. If you are the recipient, skillfully slip into silence and avoid conversations that spawn ‘contrariness’ as a positive and rational way to harmoniously position yourself to it. Friendships with those who are easily triggered or just naturally negative from habits that likely started in childhood need your positioning so you keep your boundaries of healthy demeanor.

The way we communicate with others and with ourselves ultimately determines the quality of our lives. One must be the change you want to see in the world. Being negative can be all consuming and self perpetuating. People make friends with their negativity and look for moments of light that actually keeps them thinking they are ok, convincing themselves that it’s just the outer world with its people that is negative. If one is psychologically healthy, there is little negativity within. Even negative on the outside is looked at as an opportunity to rise above it. Always be looking to make every moment as positive as possible, and dealing with any negativity with the best discernment of options possible. Always, a sense of humor soothes the soul for you as well as another. If your life doesn’t feel exciting most of the time, it might just be time to make meditating part of everyday life to lighten you up.

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Communication Compromised

Communication Compromised 🙌

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January 16, 2021

Communication or mutual dialog can be what love, in its different ways, is all about. When communication becomes wordless between two open souls by flowing of receiving and giving, life is at its pinnacle of joy and blissfulness. However, millions who speak the same language present barriers or suppressions to the flow of verbal energy, that can be like climbing a rocky mountain. The art of communication comes naturally to some people, however anyone is vulnerable to another’s resistances to be a smooth dialoguer, but instead faced with an uncomfortable climb over jagged, slipper rocks.

This leads to a conversation from personal to also the whole society. One should never have to walk on eggshells either in a personal conversation with the threat of reaction or on a society basis. A compromise between good and evil spells death for the good. If I ask you to drink a cup of cyanide and you refuse, but we compromise on half a cup, who wins? The compromises serve as precedents that launch the next compromises and consequent government accretions of power.

Those who censor see no need to continue feigning fealty to anything other than subjugation and control. We are then confronted by a dystopian totalitarianism, the design of which the totalitarians are no longer trying to hide. Virtually everything has already been compromised and the meager remnant of freedom is on the table. As the crowd is prodded into the cattle cars (not social distancing, their well-being no longer even a faux concern) uneasy whispers circulate: is the final destination the abattoir or the slaughterhouse of free flowing communication?

The turning of people into appliances plugged into an all-seeing internet will leave everyone in an electric, behavioral, panopticon that’s as sterile and joyless for the watchers as the watched? Usurping freedom of thought and communication is to deny the potential of a superconscious being and society. The mother of what’s called pedagogy is the learning of skills to think for ourselves about problems and issues. In this case, why stunt evolving growth by not questioning if the self that interacts with the world is being compromised by refusal to learn and evolve using all skillful means available to the human mind and heart. The art of communication of listening and expressing is available free for those who want to give to themselves all the opportunity of experiencing empathy and compassion for others. Love and life’s fulfillments need no compromising.

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Art of White Lie

Art of White Lie 👀
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January 10, 2021

Honesty, integrity and truth are cornerstones of a loving life. All my close connections in life have no censorship that requires walking on thin ice for fear of at least a verbal reaction that downsizes any love. The unimpeded flow of communication is a never ending delight and gift that one always wants and enjoys more of. The need to censor anything is a block to the love that can be. Of course, some relationships don’t allow free thought and connections, in which case it’s best to ‘harmoniously position’ yourself to them for the best connection even if it’s just a smile.

We all find occasion to reject and resist another person. It’s a great feeling of course to not have to go through that experience, but sometimes the ‘pains’ of the lack of smooth communication can, motivate to find ways to rise about it where there are no clouds of rain and storms. We all like to put up a fight against anything we dislike. But we forget that when we decide we will resist something or somebody, either mentally or physically, we only empower the object of our resistance, either in reality or in our own minds.

When, and if, you want to enjoy the ability to influence, always start with acceptance. If you want to disarm another, begin with acceptance. If you want to encourage and empower another to change, start with acceptance. Don’t make it conditional. Otherwise it’s just resistance disguised as acceptance, and you are still trying to control them. Call it a bit of deception to land you both on a more congenial wavelength. It has a sense of a ‘white lie’. White lies are always to not hurt anyone but may make the connection on any matter more acceptable.

I’m the first to admit that having enjoyed the bliss of being not only on the same page as someone, but on the same line of thought at all times. Still experiencing anyone who is challenged by their own internal way of communication, requires an art of navigation that can certainly be worth the outcome.

Have an open heart, but a flexible attitude especially where communication is like navigating a roaring stream while avoiding the dangerous rocks in the way of moving on. In a sense, the moments of rocky communications, metastasizes or contaminates all meanings of attempted dialog. Everything is not as it seems sometimes. Well, well, well … and especially

in the world as it is now. Even most love is tainted with revolving truth and lies, but if truth be know, not the kind of love that anyone wants. To find love, always focus on the positive, sensitive truth, and leave the only lies as ones with a ‘wink’. The path of the evolving spiritual is the path of love.


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