September 22, 2018
Walking in the woods with no compass or idea where you are or why you got yourself in that position is akin to the majority of humans. As long as the ‘ego’ doesn’t think it’s lost, no help can be payed attention to. To have ‘no ego’ is not possible if like most you have a small one and think you can scoot or ‘back out of it, but if you payed attention, your ego is like a roller coaster – up and down. The ego, which rarely is not small, occasionally puffing up to a ‘big ego’ is an aspect of you to keep you on a rope or leash for everyone to pull this way and that. As my investigative reporter friend, Jon Rappoport said, ‘’The ordinary mind is built on its own national security program. It protects itself from intrusions it considers disruptive.’’
Small ego’s constantly get erected from time to time when they think there is a need to censor communication attempts, likely before the communication gets off the ground. Walking on ‘eggshells’ with what you say to another is their unconscious form of censoring you, and certainly it could be you doing it to others to protect a small ego too. Communication that is sporadic is insufficient for any bonding of minds and feelings. Most have a shield in the mind to protect what they refuse to examine for barriers to a comforting harmony that has no fear of ‘verbal tentacles’, and their wounds to further connection.
To miscommunicate is what it says, ‘to miss communication’ and that leads to misinterpretations as well as the likely- hood of an unfavorable communication. (Of course, a miscommunication could have nothing to do with ego.) To ‘miss’ communicate also has the non quality of not being able to venture into certain subjects with a dialog of no barriers or censorship daggers that backfire. Rigidity of openness to communicate, both with yourself and others, is to stifle inner growth, and of course for the one who ‘stifles’ communication.
There is no easy way for dealing with a shifting ego, but then again it’s worth a more harmonious life to focus either on your ego fluctuations, or be forever at the mercy of not having the skills. To begin addressing ego controls of yourself and others, first accept yourself as much as you have the courage to. Use the spiritual technique of ‘skillful means’ with a light sense of humor to seek the best of options in responding to another and addressing another who has areas of ‘reactivity’. Self censorship and conscious walking on eggshells with skill may avoid engagements that are emotionally toxic. The key is a sense of giving with skillful means, which is a high spiritual quality, and at the same time there is being able to ‘receive’ with skill from another.
Seek the tools of meditating to let go and smooth out your communications. You are surrounded by a sea of abundance. You are alive – be aware and proactive in a universe that’s overflowing with possibilities. Always be focused on you inner growth.