Blamer Framer Disease
May 25, 2016
Some people throw out negativity and blame the receiver for reacting. Always a good idea to check out your perception ability to be compassionate and in common sense with acceptance by others who are the same. Being a ‘blamer-framer’ is to always be treading water in spiritual evolution. Many people are stressed or in denial some way or other from positive interaction. In other words, they act like headless machines. Compassion seems to be stored in their mind and heart closets. Kinda like the dog who takes a shit wherever he pleases, this type creates an uncomfortable situation for the receiver, maybe gets a reaction, and the ‘blamer-framer’ doesn’t take responsibility for the ‘bad behavior’.
Some people are ‘habitual inciters’ of dissonance mostly unconsciously, and without listening to themselves with a critical observation. Know of a very rich guy who doesn’t realize he acts entitled giving him the thoughtless impression that he always has the ‘stage’. Behaviors, good or bad become embedded in the self serving, non self analytical mind.
Being attached to the outer accumulations and desires is often a cover for finding and using the ‘art of love’ and enrichment of the inner self. It’s always good to associate with more conscious people who can provide a mirror reflection of who you are. Conscious people never initiate discord and especially are willing to own it if it’s misinterpreted. I’ve known people who live in a ‘bubble’ of self abuse issues that were likely the result of not taking the time to correct what are often selfish needs to make them feel better from others.
Projecting your problems on others really needs waking up to the reality that YOU are the problem. Developing qualities such as tolerance, patience, ability to laugh (especially at yourself), calmness, gratitude, respect for other’s space, compassion – the list goes on and on and is akin to being a human being, or being a superconscious human. Loving yourself is ‘truth’, and that doesn’t mean adorning yourself in the mirror or with what money can buy, but what no amount of money can buy.
A squeaking door or mechanical anything that shows itself to be not working with ease needs attention, often in the form of a lubricant. For humans, that ‘lubricant’ is love in the heart. That lubricant is made within from both the right use of the aware, discerning mind in conjunction with an open heart. The positive self is geared to not being attached to another’s ‘blamer-framer’ gamer.
A life without purpose has little meaning – it is mere existence. To have a truly meaningful life, one must have a specific purpose; a worthy goal or ideal that one is constantly striving to serve or advance. Preventive maintenance in keeping all inner qualities working as a purpose gives your life the meaning that resonates everywhere, and creates that purposeful life. Heal thyself first – you are your own doctor!