Victim Cry Babies
May 16, 2016
Self deception is a disease among the unaware, and is viral wherever you step out of the circle of ‘healthy positive people’. Had a middle age woman come up to my free speech display today to comment on half the boards as negative even though she didn’t bother to read beyond the title. Nothing would convince her otherwise. So finally I said, each writing board was made to be like a mirror of the reader, negative perceptions would see them as negative and those who saw what I really wrote would see them positively. Even then she couldn’t see that I was talking about her perception. Clearly a ‘victim’!
The ‘art of communicating’ is using the most ‘skillful means’ you can muster up to convey a positive statement or message to another’s acknowledgement. Part of the secret is to use your open heart coupled with common sense language that emanates compassion to the ‘receiver’. Initiating the throwing of verbal punches, is like initiating a war for peace.
Often people will speak in words that are confrontational to start an engagement of thoughts. Many speak from unresolved issues of the past like anger, depression, fears, etc., while exhibiting words that if better chosen would evoke understanding, compliance, approval, etc. These same people, if they had to sell a service or product to someone would likely use the best choice of communication that displayed no ‘victim mentality’. Yet with loved ones, friends, or strangers in daily life, they will frequently speak through their unresolved pains.
Playing the ‘victim card’ is a disingenuous way to provoke a verbal argument, unnecessary disorder, and then blame the other because they responded unkindly for the perception of unkindness on the victim’s part. An example on a physical level would be to hit someone, then blame them for hitting you back. The more lost, disoriented and spiritually defeated people become, the more susceptible they become to negative encounters, especially fostering them.
Know who you are, accept that you may have flaws especially emanating from a challenging childhood, then make the intent to do something to fix the negatives you still carry around. Use the power of will, and know that making meditation a part of your life smooths the rough edges of a flawed you. Use the attached to ‘flaws’ you let go of to give you advantages in life whatever they might be. Do you really want to know who you are? Don’t ask. Act! Action will delineate and define you as a new you in a more positive, blissful, loving light. Reverse the pump, move forward, upward and onward!