Fear of Love
October 5, 2015
Women collectively fear love! There is good reason – men! The glass, either half empty or half full is still not full. Love with any fear of closeness and total communication is not full either. It’s easy to love a dog or cat, especially a dog because they love back unconditionally especially if you feed them consistently. However, if the glass of love is half full or half empty love with a partner, life will be like the weather that changes daily from sunny days, rain, snow, dreary clouds, night and day and just anything. In other words, most are bankrupt on love because half love or part love is not what anyone in the beginning opted for.
Do men love with all their heart? If they know and love themselves beyond ‘ego acknowledgement’ they can! However, women are the temples of love even if holding on to generations ad infinitum of suppressed love because of fears. Yet, women would be better off trying to climb the highest mountain barefoot rather than trying to facilitate a man carrying a past of troubled love to open deeply and unconditionally. The good ‘just ok news’ is that, if you don’t mind the same old, same old life of most everyone you know, half baked love, like an old needing-repairs car,
will get you across the country albeit not without joy and misery frequently changing places. Life doesn’t have to be a swinging pendulum of negative and positive.
You really choose to be the way you are, and who you pull into your love aura. Love doesn’t take work if the glass is half full or empty, but the many disguises that fear manifests in you, have to be detached from for the glass to overflow with love. Work on eliminating you fears! Love flowing over is about ‘quality of life’ and eliminating the ever changing vicissitudes of love and fears.
What is the difference between: I like you; I love you? Buddha had a beautiful answer and so simple – ‘’When you like a flower, you just pluck it. But, when you love a flower, you water it daily.’’ One who understands this, truly understands life. Pluck the negatives out of who you’ve allowed yourself to become, and find opportunities to fill the glass with ways of love so that it overflows while releasing the negative. Taking your negatives into love may make them disappear for a moment, but then they always rise to extinguish the beauty that was, round and round, love and fear and love and fear again. The fears dilute the deep love that waits for you to make the choice to let them go! Love is a meditation, and meditating will fill the glass of love.