Victim Avoiding Love
August 28, 2015
Let go of thinking you are NOT the problem in your love life! Quit wrapping your mind around avoiding who you really are. Inside you feel like crap but you cannot be honest with yourself and with someone you love, IF you even do love! You may love your pet, a child, a parent, food, surprises, new material things, but ….? Loving someone you are ready to give your life to and all your love to is quite another challenge!
You are here to be someone you are not being! The ideal one you seek is the real you, except you spend life avoiding who that is. You have settled on who others think you are, and made that your ‘self’ with all your background connections, dramas, misinterpretations, fears and lies including your name that someone else gave you. You have become what others have told you that you are, and bought it ‘hook, line, and sinker’! Plowing through life being someone you are not is tantamount to a suicide of the real you who rarely gets a chance to peek out of your rambling mind that’s trapped who you really are.
It’s past time to reverse the pump that’s clogging your inner truth. Chains of habit are too light to be felt until they are too heavy to be broken. People who don’t know how to love are everywhere, and at best loving with their minds and physical beings that is little more than like putting a ‘golf cart’ motor in a Rolls Royce. What a disappointment, and a misuse of what looks good but inside is just not going to reflect what’s on the outside. Conversely and worse, is to have that ‘golf cart’ motor in an undependable, run down car!
I had some friends who lived in what looked like a house that was ready to be torn down with peeling paint, moss on the roof, a yard that was a neighborhood eyesore. One day I visited them. Found out they had bought this house a couple years ago, and had spent all that time rebuilding everything inside leaving me astonished to the point I had forgotten what the outside was like! Likewise, one can always shine on the inside!
When ever you are alone with yourself, find that place that makes you feel young, vibrant, at peace with bliss. Inside you is every possibility of finding the deepest love anyone has ever felt. Just let go of everything, and be free. Free of words, free of all that is not positive, in fact just let being in the moment bring up a silence and soon a feeling in your heart. Time to let go of the shadow of who you really are! Empty the mind and fill your heart! Close your eyes and breath deeply for a comfortable time, after a while with eyes closed, just be the watcher as you breath normally.