October 13, 2014
From the ‘honeymoon of love’ to the endless bootcamp of reality, love for the unprepared is standard operating procedure. Is it a disease, or just karma for running on to the field of love as in sports lingo, onto the ‘sandlot of love’? Over the years, I’ve closely watched every couple, or one ‘released from love’ to dig into their experiences. The result, at this point, is that no one could pay me any amount of money to be a committed partner in any of them. Have I personally experienced what nearly all have missed? Of course, or I wouldn’t spend these ongoing years writing about it!
Those who claim to be ‘in the know’ as professionals of human behavior may talk a big talk, but haven’t walked it. The masks that people cling to, are rarely not on, even where intimacy needs ‘no mask’. Love is cracked, and more often broken and on crutches, or in the crack of memory of a few moments that don’t endure. Love, real love, endures apart from being with another. Real deep love comes through the connection of two in high spirit, or passionately and consciously evolving into the vibration. Only love gives inner freedom. All other freedom is not sustaining inner freedom.
‘Acedia’, or the ‘8th deadly sin’, manifests itself in life and love as lack of passion for the highest spheres of the aura of love. When love is an unfixed ‘crack’ in the energy, all sorts of impediments including the manifestations of unresolved earlier issues, spreads like a ‘cancer to love’ rarely acknowledged, but instead accepted with non genius ways to work around the dissatisfaction points rather than moving to the heart’s answers. Why look in all the wrong places for the love that you secretly want? We are all vessels of a spiritual self that is here to deepen itself through love in the world of material reality.
Both genders, deep inside, yearn for the love that they had as an unborn, as well as into birth from the mother. Apart from that, it’s an instinctual need for ultimate flowering or bliss. Men have been conditioned in all history to be some form of predator that often avoids the ‘track’ to follow up to the higher realms of love. Women on the other hand, die missing, but throughout life feeling a yearning heart for a love that they can’t really define. Women continue to have little power today to avoid the ‘cracks’ of love, and easily settle for a marginal semblance of love. When faced with a rare real opportunity of what they would like, they find ways to cancel the opportunity.
Love is flying all around us, but only those with the passion and awareness of discernment have a chance in a life to catch it. Real love is elusive. Let go of love that imprisons your freedoms, and allow it to come up within yourself. Better to have it with yourself than in a ‘cracked love’ that is akin to the changing weather’s storms.
However, the author, Jane Austen said, ‘I do not want people to be very agreeable as it saves me the trouble of liking them a great deal’. Hmmm .. she only lived to be 43. Wonder if that had anything to do with it? That attitude misses love, and she did lead a lonely life.