Abandoning Love is Easy!
July 9, 2014
…And often a good idea when the other possesses ‘self abusive love’ within themselves. Life gives everyone access to a supply of love. Because of ‘blocks’ to the supply, the unaware get love mixed with dissonance, or what I call shrapnel, hence their relentless troublesome experiences with love. Love isn’t needy! Love can smoothly let go of the object or recipient of love, but only if you love yourself deeply. Love can always be a friend. What people claim to be ‘love’ is really them as a very conditional friend, or just another body who sadly can shut the door on their ability to let their self love be a friend to themselves. Most who claim they love are NOT worthy of real love unless committed to closing the gap.
Those who really love themselves are far better off letting go of the love with those who struggle between love, self hatred, and all forms of fear of intimacy. People with love difficulties are better off alone, or typically imprisoned with someone else who struggles so at least they have someone to commiserate with (sarcasm). Rarely does this popular type actively focus on clearing up the things that make them more than marginally desirable, especially after a short beginning.
Love convoluted with mixtures of emotions is potentially a teacher, but not always one free of repercussions. Letting go of the other beyond your seeming control can be equivalent to experiencing the death of a loved one. However, life without the variety of emotions including the suffering ones would be an empty life as much as one wants to avoid hurts of suffering. Two people experiencing deep love will only send love to each other avoiding any negatives while leaving a completion and love always flowing.
There is a simple method to center yourself, or come back to sanity, and to put ‘positivity’ to your past. Be a simple witness of your thought processes.
Sit silently, witnessing the thoughts, passing before you. Do not interfer, even judging. The moment you judge you have lost the pure witness. The moment you say “this is good, this is bad,” you have already jumped onto the thought process. Be patient and a gap will come. The gap will be between the witness and the mind. Once the gap is there, you are in for a great surprise, that you are not the mind, that you are the witness, a watcher.
When you go deeper and deeper in witnessing, thoughts start disappearing. ‘You are’, but the mind is utterly empty. This is the moment when you become centered or sane, and in the moment. ‘In the moment’ is to be in the present, and life becomes a present. Maybe that’s why it’s called the present. As the mind clears, the past is converted into a situation to learn from while becoming a present, and transitions into the present. Clinging and being forever attached to bad memories comes with an unsettled, unclear mind. Life opens love’s doors as a present when you are in the present!