To kill a conversation use trigger words that activate emotional reaction. Of course, there are positive, loving triggers, but the word ‘trigger’ is generally used to indicate a source that sends one or more people into a negative reaction. An extreme trigger example would be in making love to a beloved, and calling them someone else’s name, unless that’s part of the thrill, will likely get an emotional reversal reaction! Every one has a ‘trigger’ to one degree or another to release a negative reaction/response. Words or certain actions are like ‘pulling a trigger’, creating an involuntary ending, or derailing an otherwise smooth connection.
‘’NLP stands for Neuro-Linguistic Programming, a name that encompasses the three most influential components involved in producing human experience: neurology, language and programming. The neurological system regulates how our bodies function, language determines how we interface and communicate with other people and our programming determines the kinds of models of the world we create. Neuro-Linguistic Programming describes the fundamental dynamics between mind (neuro) and language (linguistic) and how their interplay affects our body and behavior (programming).’’
Ultimately, each of us is the caretaker of how we react/respond to the stimuli of words, feelings, actions or not, etc. Most live in a belief system bubble that often is closed to information to further open the mind. In a sense, we ‘chip’ or ‘NLP’ our selves to behave this way or that to stimuli. It’s always, your choice to be stuck in mind/emotional nets that make you part of the ‘sheeple stable’ that open minded, inquiring types have to tip toe around to avoid serious reactions.
Part of the art of communication is to learn to not have ‘negative triggers’, where you can be controlled, with one to a few words. There are NO WORDS that should always ‘trigger’ the awake, tempered person. All fears of what to say around an aware person are automatically eliminated. People who are close, particularly those in love, should automatically know that all is said with love. If not in that space, it’s best to find ways to open the heart and intimacy more where all is an open book. The deeper the love the greater the mutual openness. The art of communication comes from the heart, and at the same time is facilitated by a natural sense of humor. If necessary, develop a sense of humor to compliment communication when appropriate.
Let openness and sensitivity be the opening trigger to the magic of love! Convert all negative triggers to a choice of opening your heart, and using ‘skillful means’ of responding.