Love Exposes Problems
September 25, 2012
Love is the end all and cure all, but…..? A dark closet reveals little to be concerned about. Turn on a bright light in a closet left untouched for years, and anything can be revealed that you never expected! LOVE CAN BE A ‘BOMBSHELL’! Most are better off staying away from the ‘love shrapnel’ at least until they resolve their unresolved childhood issues, and considering deep meditation as an entrance into a more enlightened state prior to a potential close-up of love. Love is a ‘turn on’ IF you tune in, otherwise it is mostly a disappearing act into flickering love, or ‘lights out’!
Sometimes, and more often than you’d think, love’s happiness melts into a nightmare, or the disappearance of the ‘good fairy of love’ who only stays when you love yourself let alone trying to love another when you, or they don’t. Love appears as ‘miracle magic’, soon becoming anything but. For those both ready, and lucky, it’s an eternal aphrodisiac within each. The physical connection is immaterial, although wonderful, if life means for it to be that way. Love has it’s own way also of being so wonderful that loving one is great, but the choices become like a ‘pandora’s box of love’ for some.
Love of children, mom, dad, cats, dogs, horses, and people in general does NOT transfer to love of self or love in its unconditional fullness in a relationship. A lack of love from a parent or parents does transfer into ‘bringing to light problems’ with love that are not corrected by just love without an awareness and personal commitment. The recognition of ‘barriers’, and the taking of responsibility of letting go of them while converting them into positive energies from the heart is necessary to create a fertile ground for breaking into the high elements of love’s energy.
Love burdened with ‘unresolved issues’ is to ‘dumbing down’ of love into a common, practical tolerance of an unfulfilled personal life. Love in its full sense is both natural, and a logical outcome of a healthy libido. Meditation enhances love that struggles. To live in a state of meditation is to live in a state of love. Love conquers all problems, but ‘flickering’ love with it’s problems is like scaling a high mountain in tennis clothes. Love needs a deep readiness whether it comes from a blessed background, or from a focused commitment to scale the inner heights to the full lights of love. Be vulnerable, and in a total let go where love only exposes more love. Love isn’t the problem. You are!
All to often this short piece represents what common love comes to:
After 35 years of marriage, a husband and wife came for counseling. When asked what the problem was, the wife went into a tirade listing every problem they had ever had
in the years they had been married. On and on and on: neglect, lack of intimacy, emptiness, loneliness, feeling unloved and unlovable, an entire laundry list of unmet needs she had endured.
Finally, after allowing this for a sufficient length of time, the therapist got up, walked around the desk and after asking the wife to stand, he embraced and kissed her
long and passionately as her husband watched – with a raised eyebrow.
The woman shut up and quietly sat down as though in a daze. The therapist turned to the husband and said, “This is what your wife needs at least 3 times a week. Can you do this?”
“Well, I can drop her off here on Mondays and Wednesdays, but on Fridays, I fish.”