Waiting for Mr. Perfect
November 5, 2010
There are no outside causes for happiness or unhappiness! Looking for the perfect mate? Start with discovering that in you is the ‘perfect mate’, and if that isn’t found, the best that can happen is stumbling upon what I call a ‘functional relationship’ (relationshit?). Partner choices are ‘karma’ for who you are, and what you’ve been. What you get is right for you at the time, as your karma called it in.
Hopefully, you discover that the excuses are just subterfuge for what’s going on inside, that like a ‘wheel’, keeps turning bringing up the same situations of behavior. Again, think of karma. Stop and watch what’s going on. It takes on another beauty because you are watching it! Nothing is happening on the outside that is not related to what’s going on in the inside. The happiness and unhappiness are just moods.
Call your moods as A & B, or yes and no. Drop the words happiness or unhappiness, for they are programmed in the subconscious, and create a certain attachment to a mind set. Try this for a few days, and just be aware. Be as if you are the ‘watcher’ like of the rising dawn and sun, with no particular judgments. See night turn into day. Don’t be identified with moods, but see them as passing like clouds in the sky. Choose to make a difference in your viewpoint of life. There is a ‘right choice’, drop ‘no conscious choice’.
Sitting day after day, month upon month, and possibly a whole life time wondering, with out self examination, where the perfect partner is, is enough to send a message to the universe, and make it even more unlikely. Finding fault in person after person may be a ‘self protective’ exercise that can slip into condemning everyone, or shutting down the positive energy that’s needed to send positive magnetic energies out.
Always, the answers are in you. Live life finding ways to see the love within you, about you, and let the universe decide on whether to bring a compliment or not. Your self love will attract those appreciative from anywhere to your presence. Trust that inside, and go on with life with no expectations. What is meant to be will be, and loving yourself will always be a blessing ‘everyday’. You only find a reflection of you. Focus on that being the inside of you, and the ‘unknown’. That’s ‘perfect’!