July 14, 2010
Everybody was kung-fu fighting
Those cats were fast as lightning
In fact it was a little bit frightning
But they did it with expert timing
Kung-fu-fighting! I’ve met some of the world’s best King-fu-fighters! The most hidden popular kind! Those who fight themselves and project it on others. Maybe it all started as little kids who when messing in their pants blamed it on their other sibling with innocence. Regardless, it’s one of the most perplexing and frightening displays of ‘shadow fighting’ known to man! It’s most popular in the arena of couples where one or both battles the ‘rif raf’ inside themselves leaving the other getting brainwashed into thinking it’s just them instead of watching with inner amusement at the display of ‘self anger’ before them and the other.
These ‘troubled souls’ come in all forms from the street bums talking to themselves to the ‘mogul attorney’ having to be in court daily with himself but pointing the finger at everyone else! Life need not be a fight but a flow in the direction of harmony and love. People become very good at fighting with themselves – no coaching needed! Beware of the overly friendly person as often they are always shopping for new stranger friends who have not experienced their ‘infighting’. When ‘unhappy self fighters’ become close to anyone they seem to seek reasons to feel annoyed, slighted, or any kind of irritation that comes with a reaction that often creates a reaction in the other to shove the blame on. It’s contagious as well as harmful to a peaceful sensible calm connection.
‘Friendliness’ is an important quality in a spiritual journey especially when from the heart and a clear mind. Buddha regarded ordinary love as below friendliness. Ordinary love is tethered to the biological needs of sex while ‘friendliness’ is free from biological constraints. Take love out of sex and it is, the lowest form of friendliness, if even that.
Humans are the only animal that can face each other in sex, creating a potential bonding that is unknown in the animal kingdom. Fighting becomes replaced by a culture of love and bliss. A deep friendliness arises in the exchange of love when sex rises above the biological urge into a realm of ‘nirvana’. Love deepens when opening the eyes and looking into each other. All inner ‘kung-fu-fighting’ dissolves, and possibly permanently. Embrace self love, not self fighting.