Fixing Love’s Chaos
June 28, 2010
Who’s the problem? Is it you? Is it both you and your partner? In a few cases it’s not you, and it’s a good idea to know that! If there is a ‘lower’ in self love, they usually control the quality of the relationship. It’s easy to get lost in the quagmire of everyday life as to what came first, the chicken or the egg? Whether you are the problem, the other is, or both, it’s imperative to find out in order to ‘fix love’. Obstructions to love are ‘love’s poisons that cloud all possibility of ever experiencing full love.
Up to this point, I’ve experienced for myself ‘the why’s, how’s, what’s, and when’s’ in relationships, and methods to use them to expand consciousness, self love, love compatibility, and educating myself in techniques to pass on for others to do the same. Problems lie in being off ‘love’s track’ and getting lost in a jungle of hopelessness that becomes a ‘rut’ of never ending turmoil mixed with brief moments of hope, and then back to hopelessness.
Having experienced many, many relationships from ‘average to extraordinary’, I can unequivocally state that both partner’s high self love is a major key to blissful, consistent love. I have experienced going from a love relationship where the other had ‘difficulties and unresolved issues’ to one that virtually had none of those with the result being going from an average relationship to one that was as perfect as one could only imagine. Why? The answer lies in one being in consciousness and self love with another who is also. A top pitcher in baseball with a struggling catcher, degrades the pitcher.
‘Finger pointers’ who instigate the problems are a block to growing love except for learning lessons on what and perhaps who to avoid! Life is really short with few ‘high conscious quality’ partner options for love sharing. Extreme discernment of consciousness in picking a partner, and being able to present the best you, is critical to a high quality love life. Having both agreeing to agree on taking responsibility for less than desirable behaviors, without negative consequences, is building compassion and deeper love!