April 15, 2010
‘Reaction’ is a survival mechanism inherent in all living creatures. On the other hand reacting from unresolved issues is an ‘inflammation’ of the brain and heart to make irreverent actions that often create provoked situations mirroring the ‘reacting’, or unthought out ‘stimulus’ to activate ‘reactions’. The person causing the ‘reaction’ and the one reacting need both reflect on better ways to handle a situation.
Two types of people have ‘reactivitis’ of the brain. One is they who set themselves up to react to words or actions that so called balanced, calm people would have little or no reaction to that wasn’t thought out. It might be frequent reactions or visible signs of irritation to many situations, or it might be limited to particular aspects of ones life, ie., belief systems. If there is any guilt to be doled out for ‘self examination’, it can be seen by both the ‘perpetrator or victim’ of reaction.
The other type with ‘reactivitis’ is a person who oversteps the common sense boundaries to initiate or instigate ‘reactions’. An example, although a bit extreme, would be setting off a firecracker in a peaceful setting; yelling ‘fire’ in a theater; relentlessly teasing someone on a very vulnerable issue; lying when the facts are known while claiming otherwise, and so forth. Being able to respond to an unintentional or intentional perpetrated ‘reaction causing’ incident is ‘to use skillful means’ with compassion and empathy for the victim.
Dialog is to communicate on the same topic or vibration with the conscious intent to arrive at a positive harmonious position. Selling a product or service in New City to buyers in the corporate environment, it was instilled in my beginning career to always listen to the prospect, using actions and words that would evoke favorable responses.
Reactions, although rare, were always to be turned into a compassionate, empathetic response that encouraged further communication. Reactions should be saved for survival situations, while ‘responses’ for harmony. Love of self minimizes all dissonance.